Why I Don’t Do Rituals In My Garden Anymore, by Megan Manson

In You may have already read the reports about John “Bearheart” Bennett, a British druid who was stabbed and beaten by his neighbours for making too much noise during a full moon ritual.

Bournemouth Crown Court heard that next door neighbours Mark and Anne Denyer had become increasingly annoyed by the drumming and chanting performed by Mr Bennett every full moon. Things came to a point one night in November, when Mr Denyer prompted an exchange of “insults and threats being traded on both sides” of Mr Bennett’s garden fence.

And then, Mr Denyer armed himself with a carving knife and went round with Mrs Denyer (carrying an umbrella) to Mr Bennett’s house, where Mrs Denyer struck Mr Bennett with the umbrella, causing immediate bleeding. Mr Denyer then stabbed Mr Bennett in the stomach. The knife penetrated his abdominal muscle tissue.

As Mr Bennett tried to disarm Mr Denyer and defend himself, Mrs Denyer beat again with the umbrella.

Judge Fuller sentenced Mr Denyer to 10 months in prison suspended for a year and 130 hours of unpaid work and Mrs Denyer to a six month suspended sentence with 100 hours of unpaid work. In other words, neither of the Denyers will go to prison unless they commit another crime.

After hearing this story, I have three questions.

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Was the sentence too lenient?

I can’t help but think the sentence was quite lenient for what appears to be a very serious crime. Mr Denyer is guilty of stabbing someone in the stomach. That could have been fatal. The judge seemed to wave this aside, saying, “Mr Bennett is a 22-stone man of very big build with a big belly.” In other words, he seemed to think the crime was less serious because Mr Bennett’s build meant that the knife didn’t penetrate as far as it would have in a person of slimmer build. It seems strange to me that it would be less serious to stab a big man than a small man.

I also find it hard to accept the judge’s assertion that “neither the Denyers had intended to do serious harm to their neighbour.” If that’s the case, why did Mr Denyer go round to Mr Bennett’s house with a carving knife?

Why the focus on the victim’s lifestyle?

I noticed that the press coverage seemed to focus more on the personality of the victim than the criminals.

Now I’m not for a second going to defend Mr Bennett’s noisy rituals. No-one has the right to subject their neighbours to high noise levels, especially at night. As I’ve written about recently, religion is not a trump card to let you get away with bad behaviour or to give you extra privileges. We don’t know the full details, but from the reports it does sound like Mr Bennett may have been inconsiderate towards his neighbours and should have kept the noise down. Particularly as it sounds like the Denyers had previously made complaints to the owner of the residential park where they live (but not, it seems, directly to Mr Bennett himself).

But that doesn’t excuse what his neighbours did to him. He is still a victim of a serious crime. Yet much of the press coverage seemed to try and portray him as a sinister, suspicious character. Take a look at this from The Telegraph:

But fellow residents spoke of the strange noises and smells that sometimes wafted from Mr Bennett’s garden.

One neighbour, who didn’t want to be named, said: “We sometimes heard odd, not normal, music and smells like joss sticks and things. John has a personalised number plate for his car that says 666, which is a bit worrying.

“I think he’s quite open about saying he’s a witch.”

“Odd music.” “Strange smells.” “A bit worrying.” Everything here seems to be a process of ‘othering’ Mr Bennett, making judgements about his lifestyle.The Telegraph didn’t record anything the neighbours may have said about Mr and Mrs Denyer and their lifestyle.

Mr Bennett may not be a good neighbour. But I can’t help but feel he’s also the victim of prejudice from neighbours who don’t like his “not normal” lifestyle and his “worrying” number plate.

How safe is it to hold a ritual in your garden?

This story reminded me to two similar incidents.

One incident was in December last year, when a witch was attacked in her own garden. 55 year old Susan Rushton, who regularly posts about witchcraft online and has visible Pagan tattoos, was attacked by a hooded man who burst into her garden and pulled out her hair. She said that her witchcraft lifestyle may have been a motivation for the attack. Now, there is no proof of this – she wasn’t holding any ritual or witchcraft acts at the time, and there was no indication of the motive. But still, the recent incident with Mr Bennett reminded me of this.

The second incident happened to me personally.

One of the reasons I bought the house I live in now was that it has a garden. I’d never had my own place with a garden before, and I was so excited to have one and to be able to perform rituals outside. Which, for many months, I did. Just like Mr Bennett, I would go out into my garden at the full moon and hold various rituals. I never made any noise during these rituals. In fact, I tried my hardest to be discreet because I didn’t actually want attention from the neighbours. I would even whisper all the words and incantations of the ritual.

But one night, during a full moon ritual, I noticed one of the neighbours was watching me from his window. I didn’t mind this so much – it’s fine to be curious. But then he started shouting abuse at me: “Burn the witch!”

I tried to ignore him and completed my ritual. It was particularly upsetting because this particular ritual was to say “thank you” to the spirits and the deities for helping to heal someone very close to me. This person had been seriously ill over the past year, and I’d made many prayers to ask for her to be healed. When she had recovered, I of course wanted to express my gratitude to the deities. But my neighbour really spoiled it.

Since then, I never perform rituals in my own garden. I don’t want to have more abuse from the neighbours. And I’m also scared that it could be worse next time. I haven’t complained to the police about it either, because I’m scared of repercussions. So I’m now in the situation where I cannot practise my religion freely in my own garden.

That’s why, even though it sounds like “Bearheart” Bennett was much less discreet and much more noisy in his worship than I have ever been, I can’t help but wonder if he’s one of many Pagans out there who have been a victim of crime because of rituals they were holding in the privacy of their own garden. I know I am.

Update 24/05/18: John Bennett has now given more information about his ordeal in The Wild Hunt. He reveals that he required surgery and a two-night stay in hospital as a result of his injuries.

Read the original blog post here.

Megan Manson

kodomonihiMegan is an eclectic Pagan from the UK who also practices Shinto, the Japanese “Way Of The Gods.” She is actively involved in the field of Japan-UK relations, interfaith activities, and her local Pagan community. Her blog can be found here, and her facebook page here.

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5 Comments on “Why I Don’t Do Rituals In My Garden Anymore, by Megan Manson

  1. “Burn the witch!” — seriously? That is a terrible thing for someone to be yelling. I am sorry your neighbor isn’t more neighborly.

  2. Megan, it’s not my place to tell you or anyone else when you should put yourself in a position of danger or to be exposed to abuse. Also, I am aware that I am multiply-privileged in ways that afford me protection that others do not enjoy. Having said that, I think that, so long as Pagans hide in the closet, they will continue to be perceived by the mainstream public as having something to hide. It’s your neighbor who should be ashamed. To my mind, his action warrant a call to the police.

  3. I completely get why you’re worried that your neighbor’s behavior might escalate, and I understand your reservations about calling the police, too. Was anyone else around at the time? Is there another neighbor or friend who could stand witness while you do ritual next time? I’m so sorry that happened. It sounds scary and difficult. Thank you for sharing your story.

  4. I think it’s incumbent on us to observe community noise and illumination ordinances and inconvenience to our neighbors when we plan our rituals, just as anyone would when planning a special event. That’s just being good neighbors. There is no reason to draw undue attention to private rituals by turning them into intrusive performance art. When possible, keep rituals appropriate to the space available and seek out distant parks and large private properties when it’s time to break out the drums. Everyone and everything is sacred — including that annoying harpy across the street who might just call the police. Sometimes, it can be nice to invite a neighbor or two to participate in a low-key ritual for some specific purpose like asking for divine blessing on an upcoming community event, thta it will be safe and enjoyable for all. When possible — as in more urban environments, permits (complete with police protection) can be acquired for large public rituals in public places, billed as a drum circle to draw attention to the need for clean water or something unlikely to be objectionable. This is a fascinating and important issue. A Pagan organization of which I was once an active member had a legal affairs group that helped with situations like the one described in the article, as well as child custody cases where a non-Pagan parent tries to paint their spouse as unfit to have custody on religious grounds and similar things.

  5. The best thing I ever did for my children and me was to move away from a neighborhood where we were being harassed by two families instead of continuing to hide behind closed doors in fear of violent confrontations. The problem wasn’t over my Pagan religion, it was because I refused to allow my children to use violence to solve conflicts with other kids. Who knows what they would have done to us if the bullies had found out that I practiced witchcraft since my pasifism alone seemed to have upset them a great deal.